A simple middle class housewife struggling for her loss as well as for the people who are like her made her founder of APDP, women’s right activist and a revolutionary lady. Her journey of agony started when she lost her son, Javed Ahangar, then a 16 year old student, stands disappeared since 18th August, 1990, after being picked up allegedly by the Indian Army who mistook him for a militant. A mother searched every corner of the state as well as of the country to get back her son. She doesn’t left any stone unturned but her heart breaking efforts proved futile. A lion hearted mother went to every jail and to every judiciary office to get any green signal for her child’s whereabouts.
Parveena Ahangar in her journey to search her lost son met other people who were like her and were searching their dear ones. The heart which was weeping for her son found many hearts alike. She associate people and became the voice of their suffering and pain. It would be great to say that she became voice of voiceless. The disappointment which she faced was enough to break her but she defeated her all negative waves and stand in front of everyone as a single worrier who fought for the people as well as for her own cause. It is well said when a person can’t sense his own pain how can any other feel the same.
She made her voice loud so that it may be heard. The Kashmir valley is the most militarized zone in the world in present scenario. There are more than 10,000 people who went disappeared. A majority of those disappeared are young men and minors. Enforced disappearance do not discriminate any as it engulfed people from every strata and profession. She internationally demanded to end the practice of involuntary disappearance.
A Half-widow is a woman living with a split identity who is neither a wife nor a widow of a missing man. The children of these mothers who hardly manage to get through life or we can say survive are given assistance by this iron lady of Kashmir. We all suffer from various traumas due to loss of some loved ones but she made her agony weapon against the atrocities which she and people like her witnessed. There may not seem any concrete results of her efforts but she has voiced her message to the world which has a subtle effect on the people across the globe. She gave message in her every speech that she has made a platform for upcoming generation to fight for the cause.
Author is PHD student at AMU. Email: firstname.lastname@example.org